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The cyberspace has pretty
much become an important part of our lives. As a woman, you probably have very few
things you do not do online. You shop online and transact business online.
There is nothing wrong with dating online as well. There are countless
testimonials out there of women that have successfully dated online and met
their life partners.
It is highly recommended
that a woman who is actively seeking a partner do so on the internet as there are better
chances of meeting a variety of people than you will during your day to day
activities offline. However, online dating has to be conducted with caution
and wisdom, since despite having lots of advantages, it also has its disadvantages.
To arm yourself for a
successful and fruitful online dating sojourn, here are some top notch tips to help
you navigate for success and meet Mr. Right:
1. 1. Know
Exactly What You Are Looking For:
Imagine a pilot getting on a plane and flying it without
knowing where he is headed or what the reason for going there is. Jumping into
the world of online dating without having a clear picture of the sort
of man you want to relate with and what you want out of that relationship is
similar to this. You will simply waste your time and end up getting nowhere.
2.
Look
in the Right Places: Pick The Right Dating Site
After identifying the kind of man you want to meet
online, the next step is to identify the sort of dating site he will most
likely be found at. There are a multitude of dating sites out there, with some
playing in niches. You can scan through various sites to find the one at which
you are most likely to find the sort of person you want to meet. You can't expect to find a serious-minded person at a site that is notorious for picking up
one-night stands. Sprocial https://www.sprocial.com for instance is a site that
gives working-class men and ladies a platform to mingle, and would be an ideal
place to meet a career-minded man.
3.
Be
Mrs. Right
You want to find and hook Mr. Right, then you have be
Mrs. Right yourself. Once you have a clear picture of the type of man you want to
be with, ask yourself one question: ‘Are you the kind of woman he is searching
for?’ For example, you will stand little chance of getting a good man to be
serious about you if you present yourself as a plaything. Most men want a woman
who is not only attractive, but is also responsible, well-behaved, presentable
and fun to be with. But with different classes of men comes a few more
specifics. An upwardly mobile, ambitious man, for instance, would want a
partner who is equallycareer-minded to complement him.
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4.
Don’t
Be Afraid To Approach Him First
Gone are the days when a lady is judged poorly if she
approaches a man first. Do not miss an opportunity to connect with a good man
just because you are waiting for him to talk to you first. In fact, making the
first move shows a man that you are a confident, mature woman and not a little girl who is afraid
to go after what she wants. You can initiate the conversation and put on the
green light to let him know you are interested in him, but you also have to be
subtle about it so you do not come off as desperate.
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5.
Your
Profile Picture is Your First Selling Point
Your profile picture is your first selling point, make it
count. Put up a picture that puts you in good light but is still very close to
what you really look like. It is always a huge turn-off when someone turns out
to be nowhere close to what they look like in their profile picture. It also
seems very deceitful.
6.
Be
An Interesting Conversationalist
Many men have opined that there is nothing as immature and
unintelligent as a lady who responds to conversations in monosyllables. Strike
off single-word responses like ‘K’ from your diction. Ask interesting questions
that show you are a person with an intelligent mind and great to hold a
conversation with. Not only does it stimulate and retain his interest in you,
it also enables you probe his mind to ascertain that he is indeed worthy of
your time and is the Mr. Right you seek.
7.
Don’t
Talk To Everyone; Be Selective
As a woman on a dating site, you will get hordes of
messages from tons of men who want to meet you. Don’t be tempted to respond to
all of them. Take your time to identify the few profiles that fit into what you
want and talk to even fewer of these at a time. This is because, talking to
several men at a time dilutes the quality of your conversation and focus,
giving you less opportunity to drill in and figure out who truly fits into what
you are looking for.
8.
Carry
out Background Checks
So you have met an interesting man who fits into your
specifications for Mr. Right? Don’t just take him at face value, though, do a
background check on him. There are many scammers out there looking for ladies
to take advantage of, either financially or otherwise. Be smart and check him
thoroughly online and even offline, if possible, before opening yourself up to
him. For instance, you can check out his Facebook and LinkedIn profiles and affiliations
to confirm he is what he says he is, name-wise and occupation-wise. Google him
extensively to dig up as much on his history as you can. This might not give
you a 100% assurance that he is real, but is far better than doing no checks at
all. You can also do physical checks, by visiting him at his place of work and asking to meet a member of his family etc.
On Sprocial https://www.sprocial.com,
one of the ways we help you confirm that people are who they say they are, is
by verifying profiles. A profile marked ‘verified’ assures you that the
professional you are talking to is authentic.
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9.
Never
Ask for Gifts, Recharge Cards or Financial Favours
Lots of Nigerian dating sites are filled with women who take
advantage of the interest men have in them to ask for gifts and financial
favour. Never request such from any man online, no matter how long you have
been connected. It immediately paints you as a ‘runs girl’ and would kill the
genuine interest any good man has in you. Dignify yourself and don’t toe that
line no matter how broke you are. Even when a man offers, always ensure you
only receive gifts and not money.
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10. Never, Ever Be Dishonest
The greatest harm you can do to your online dating
prospects is to misrepresent yourself or try to be deceptive either on your
profile pic/details, or during chats. Earning trust online is a difficult
process, you don’t want to lose the trust you have worked hard to earn because
of a lie or act of deception.
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